Is he meant to be?

Guidance for a relationship with a boyfriend

Do you have any guidance for the relationship with my boyfriend Luke; is he meant to be in my life long-term? Thank you, Krysten.

Laura Lee: The answer is always in the question.

You wouldn’t ask the question if you already’ knew’ the answer.

When you don’t ‘know,’ something within you already senses that the answer is doubtful.

Intuitively, feelings of doubt suggest you step back for more information.

Your answer also depends on how you define a long-term ‘boyfriend’; is that he is there for a reason, a season, or a lifetime?

I sense your Luke has been a boy ‘friend’ for a long while.

Because you’re an open-hearted person, you tend to see the good in all people and override their shadow self. Everyone has these parts within themselves, so it doesn’t mean that he’s a bad person. He might not be your ideal. You’re good at forgiving his shortcomings because you’re focused on his potential. What he reveals about himself today is a precursor for his future.

Something about Luke’s energy is unsettling for you, and I center it around where he wants to live long-term. For instance, you probably heard him talk about moving to other parts of the country or even the world. If he didn’t include you on his happy trails, this confirms my message.

Due to his unsettled outlooks about where to live, he also questions having his own family. He flip-flops about what he wants because he doesn’t know. He’s scared by the immense responsibility while still trying to figure out what he wants in life. Anyone giving him outside pressure doesn’t help him make a decision faster. Bottom line, how can Luke commit long-term with you when he can’t commit to his own future?

My impression is that this relationship is for you to discover what you want in a relationship.

I believe you’ll know when it’s the right person. Your aunty with a pixie cut says that he doesn’t check all the boxes you (or your family) would want in a mate for you. Someone better suited for you will come along.

I recommend Dr. Pat Allen’s book ‘Getting to I do’ about sustaining a long-term relationship and Sandra Anne Taylor’s Secrets of Attraction for manifesting love. These books are brilliant for a lady who knows what she wants!

Finally, I suggest reading my Spirit Message: Rhythm for more insight.

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